When something unfortunate and unexpected happens in my life, I notice changes in my attitude, behavior and mindset. Regardless of the reason, understanding how to be okay with yourself when everything seems to crumble is crucial to one’s mental and physical health.
Accept that bad things happen to everyone.
I had to accept the obvious truth: shit happens to everyone. When bad things happen we take it far too personal. Our thoughts become negative and we start to victimize ourselves in every situation. All because of our egos. Once I put that aside I began to understand that everyone is equal. We’re all a unity of every little thing. Nobody is less special or more superior. So, regardless of how crappy these past few months have been, just know the world isn’t out to get you. Shit just happens.
Free yourself from all attachment
Once I started to let go of the idea of “I,” “ego,” and self,” overcoming adversity become a much smoother process. The truth is that we make things more complex than they need to be, because we like to make ourselves out to be the victim in every situation. One thing leads to another, and we find ourselves over thinking, stressing, and worrying. We can avoid all the excessive baggage, by simply understanding that good and bad things are bound to happen, and being okay with the flow of things.
It takes being aware of all things happening, all changes that come with it, and never thinking twice about it. It’s a process of inhaling, exhaling, opening, and closing. It’s nothing more, nothing less than what is given.
Its okay to not be okay
There is no escape from yourself. It’s okay to feel. Masking your emotions never helps. If you never deal with them, you won’t be able to understand the reason behind them. Always know that everything you feel is real and necessary. The worst thing you can do is ignore yourself. You cannot ever heal or move forward if you disregard any emotions. You have to be willing to embrace them.
Since we cannot alter external circumstances, the only thing we can do is to not feel negative about them. When we dwell on things that have happened to us, it’s like holding a grudge over the universe. Once you’re able to fully acknowledge the things happening around you, you’ll have the power of never letting temporary feelings interfere with what’s to come. Give yourself a chance to find the good in things. I like to believe there is beauty in all suffering. Find meaning in your life by embracing what you lost and start living for yourself. It’s never too late.
Choose your experience
By understanding that shit happens to everyone, you won’t take it as personal when it happens to you. You don’t always have to accept everything that happens, but try to be mindful of what is happening in the moment.
Once you’re able to understand the process of come and go, you will find positivity in all corners of your life, even during the most brutal circumstances. In doing so, you’ll be able to control what happens next. We can’t alter the past, but we can control how we feel in the moment. We cannot change external circumstances, but we can choose to not feel negative about them. We always have a choice. This is your experience, your dream, your life. You control what happens next.